• someguy3@lemmy.ca
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    4 months ago

    Many of the people that think being gay is a choice are in fact bisexual. So for them it’s a choice on whether or not to act on it. They assume everyone else works the same way.

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      4 months ago

      I choose to be monogamous with my partner. When I was single there was not a single conscious thought rattling around the horn brain.

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      4 months ago

      I would think that everyone choosing their sexuality implies that everyone essentially has the ability to ‘be’ any sexuality.

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        4 months ago

        From a logical perspective that implication is true, choosing your sexuality implies you have a choice. However, I disagree with the premise that there is a choice to begin with.

        I do not choose to be straight, I just am. I’m not gay, and no amount of choosing will change that. I’m a guy, and I can choose to look for a boyfriend, but it won’t change the fact that I’m attracted to women. Now maybe I discover that I’m actually attracted to both men and women, but I would argue that discovering is different from choosing. Choosing would mean that I can choose to not be attracted to a gender, which I can’t. I can only choose whether or not I act on it.

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      4 months ago

      Obviously they’re bisexual, monosexuals are a myth.

      You’re bi or you’re ace, and everyone is just one “being trapped on a deserted island with a hottie not of their usual preference” from recognizing it.

      That’s right, monosexuals, now YOU’RE being erased, deal with it.

    • agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works
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      4 months ago

      You misunderstand. Obviously, everyone feels homosexual attraction, “being” gay is choosing to act on that attraction. That’s what they mean when they say “being gay is a choice”.