Hello, my name is Cris. :)

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Cake day: July 6th, 2023
  • Cris@lemmy.worldtoCasual Conversation @lemm.ee•Lonliest time on Lemmy ...English
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    28 days ago

    I do, it’s always nice getting to say good morning to folks as I’m on my way to bed. And sometimes I end up skipping sleep in order to do something that requires I be awake during normal hours (like doctor’s appointments, my friends wedding) and its always nice to hang out with folks on those days ☺️

    I’m grateful my friends also often stay up later than they normally would to hang out, and I often try to wake early for social time :)

  • Cris@lemmy.worldtoCasual Conversation @lemm.ee•Lonliest time on Lemmy ...English
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    28 days ago

    I have a sleep disorder so I’m always awake through the night. For me I kinda appreciate that it makes it easier to stop scrolling, cause there’s not anything new showing up and I’ve already seen the posts for the day :)

    I can see how it’d be lonely though. Perhaps I’m used to it cause my sleep disorder is isolating whether I’m using lemmy or not

    I hope you have a lovely day today :)

  • Cris@lemmy.worldtoCasual Conversation @lemm.ee•Why is it that I fail when learning new hobbies/ things with groups?English
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    29 days ago

    Sounds a like a combination of fear of failure and anxiety around social settings. Failure should be, and usually is, a part of learning, which is something I’m working on internalizing for myself 😅 but it sounds like you’re also putting a lot of pressure on yourself not to make any mistakes, which is unrealistic and also sets you up for immediate failure if you get into your own head about it.

    Generally the answer to any fear related issues is exposure. If that idea is horrifying then its especially important, and you’ll need to start small. But letting yourself experience the source of fear enough times for your anxiety to go up, observe the way it comes back down and that you’re okay, and you start to feel safer in that kind of experience

    But if you do too much at once you’ll often make the problem worse. If you’ve got good friends you can ask, maybe share what you’re having a hard time with, and see if y’all can learn origami together or something with people you consider safe. Feel out the anxiety, and when you fail, notice that you’re stjll okay :)

    Investigating fear of failure and exposure therapy online may yeild helpful that really helps with perspective and practical approaches to dealing with what you’re facing

    Sending love and hugs, thats a crap experience

  • Cris@lemmy.worldtoWorld News@lemmy.world•Australia will create affordable housing for trans women in first-of-its-kind initiativeEnglish
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    1 month ago

    I mean, that kinda seems like why I’d want there to be housing specifically for trans women. Building housing specifically for trans folks seems like the wrong way to solve housing discrimination or housing unaffordability. I think those problems would probably be more effectively soved through other means

    But building essentially shelter housing for trans folks without a safe place to go seems like a great way to create a space for them that is safe and trans inclusive should they find themselves in crisis, and unwelcome or uncomfortable using other faculties that are disproportionately serving cis women who may or may not be welcoming or understanding.

    Now they just also have to implement policies that address housing unaffordability, and housing discrimination. If its like the situation in the US, kinda feels like thats never gonna happen 🙃