Thank you. This whole system is honestly a clusterfuck. Its been 11 years and we’re still fighting. I give immigrants more of a devils advocate than maybe I should because of our experience, but its hard not to because I’ve seen the shittiness of our current system. Its also why I hate the whole “ThEy ShOuLd JuSt CoMe HeRe LeGaLlY” argument. Its not that easy for so many of them. Its expensive (we’re at about 25k with probably more to be spent), overly complicated, and one single misstep sends you back to square one.

Luckily, we aren’t near a border, and in a purple state, so it’s not as dangerous here as other places. But it’s still terrifying with this administration.

Unfortunately, there’s a high chance her immigration application depends on her being married to him. My husband and I have been at his process for going on 8 years, and it entirely rests on me sponsoring him. If we were to separate, his whole case would get shut down, and he starts over with an even more expensive and complicated process. We aren’t going to divorce because we love each other, but it’s still something that his lawyer had to advise us about.