Can we host it ourselves a la Mastodon / Lemmy / Fediverse stuff?

What part of this is self-hosted?

Heck even Disneyland is cheaper per hour.

I just got back into Last Epoch after putting around 80 hours in when 1.0 released. Fantastic game!

Maybe cockpit?

Free/TrueNAS.

I feel the exact opposite – I feel like they encourage tinkering in their own way, since they offer the ability to much more easily roll back to a known good configuration.