Good vibes is what makes life bearable so I appreciate those my friend.

Yeah I’m not really here for therapy, just needed to get that out I guess.

Clearly I do need to talk to someone, but that’s a scary thing and not cheap.

100%, but sadly many people, myself included didn’t get that and actively grew up in terrible environments.

I guess that’s what happens when you mum is 18 when you’re born. You’re being raised by a kid that didn’t make the best choices and the cycle continues. Although I don’t and won’t have children.

This is why school should be empowered to do more as that place is literally the only place you’re learning how to be a person and get ready for life.

I saw my dad beat my mum up. Been in the house when he tried to drive the car into the house but got stuck in the privits.

I’ve seen my mum attack my dad with a frying pan and witness my tea be dunked on her head. Or my dad go to prison for drunk driving.

Spent my entire pre high school childhood sat in the back of a car as my mum would berate the different men in her life, to her best friend.

Spent the following years seeing my mum psychologically bully my dad and he would be sat down stairs crying at night.

Is it little wonder that when people grow up like this and with ADHD that they might be hard to reach in school and that they are withdrawn.

I want to say that life’s hard and I don’t blame my family for the shit I grew up because they were young and not ready for life themselves as they had shit lives too. We were fed, went on holidays, and were richer than most of my council estate (I grew up there too) friends, but we didn’t get stability, love, or encouragement which is sad.

Like this is the tip of the iceberg of what shit I’ve seen growing up or some of the fucked up shit they dragged me into, being the eldest. I have two younger brothers and we are all fucked up in different ways but I’m by far the worst (as society would say) in every metric like wages, progress in life etc.

Edit: Looking introspectively I am thinking I’ve got unresolved issues for all this shit to just come out my finger tips on Lemmy 😂

Edit: Reflecting on this a little more, it’s annoying when people like dude I replied to say it’s the parents job. Like no shit dude, but what do you do when the parent fails the child, just leave it at that and say to the kid sorry mate, but it’s your mums fault but good luck in life. It’s the same kind of thing where people say the parents should feed the child so the school doesn’t have to, this just leaves hungry fucking kids.

I like to keep a positive mindset on things and although I believe I was failed by the education system, ADHD wasn’t as known back then so to them I was just an easily distracted comedian with no desire to learn, except in maths I would ask for homework as I was alright and it was relaxing and I suppose subconsciously I didn’t feel like a failure here. Again they didn’t really help me nurture that desire.

What I like to keep positive about is that the teacher is powerless to do anything and they just need to teach the most about of people as possible without letting the disruptive kids take time away from the ones who are better at school.

My issue is with the education system for the masses and cynic in me doesn’t believe that systems wants everybody to reach their potential, it’s just to get you used to routine and to allow your parents to be slaves to capitalism. If it was about potential then teachers would be paid more and we would have class sizes similar to private schools (those where you pay obscene amounts) where the teacher can individualise the education.

I was uninterested in school because nothing was ever done to make me interested, even at home.

Later in life I was diagnosed with ADHD and now I’m a software developer. Sadly school isn’t for everybody and I just thought I was stupid and lazy, it turns out I was fine I just needed the right help.

Edit: Votes don’t matter but I’d love to know the reasoning for the 4 downvotes on this.

What’s the comments condoning this are missing is that a lot of these places are talking about drug use outside of work.

It ain’t your damn business if I need to get stoned after work to deal with the stresses of life.

Thank god I’m a software developer now where the boss treats us like people that matter and not just numbers. He regularly tells us that we come first the work is secondary. He’s also great with clients and as a result we get insane amounts of repeat business and recommendations.

As a Typescript developer, npm is a damn mess. I ain’t got a clue how to handle these dependencies.

Train Line or Uber?

Either way I’m not sure to be honest.

Those Stanley cups were so expensive 😂. I don’t get it. It’s a flask.

In the UK uber started advertising that you can buy your train tickets via the uber app. Like WTF, no thanks I’ll just use Train Line.

My boss is a real one and will drop me a message saying can we have a word outside, p.s. it’s nothing bad.

I am lucky that I found an employer who actually cares about us and the work is truly second to our mental health.

Ah my bad. I forgot you had to enable them first. It’s been a while.

Thanks dude.

I also don’t want kids and wouldn’t be a good parent, but for different reasons.

Malevolent is such a nice word.

For those, like me, that didn’t know its meaning. It means malicious.

Fuck Moody’s.

Not the other dude and only weighing in on Voyager.

You can tag users so a little badge shows up next their name whenever you see them. So you could tag this guy “uncivil” if you wanted to be reminded who they are.

To do this you can click my username, then click the ellipsis (…) in the top right and finally edit tag.

Interested in learning where the setting is to hide votes as that seems interesting to not be swayed subconsciously.

Example below.

I’d rather you didn’t have kids pal. It doesn’t appear that you have the mental maturity to raise a kid that wouldn’t need therapy later in life.

I say this as someone who had parents with the mindset of your original comment. Like you don’t even know why this person threatened to assault their kid, you just side with them.

I’d rather have an obnoxious kid than a dense kid.

It would appear you were not obnoxious.

Why does ChatGPT have a different writing style to you as it does to me.