Oh man thank you so much for mentioning him! I’ve been struggling to remember a book of his that i read a while ago

Secondhand cigarette smoke (but not too strong) even though i’ve never smoked

Huh, reminds me of myself except the unapologetic part (maybe i’ll change over to that someday). I do feel like the selfish/stubborn part of me is insurmountable and incompatible with the types of relationships i envision for myself. Nothing else to contribute, just here to share my thoughts and/or commiserate