or for a potential fun comment thread: is dude gendered? I grew up in a place where a lot of people called everyone dude regardless of gender. That said, when I’ve brought this up, some people get real heated about it.
You know I’ve said “dude” all my life and I still use it all the time in regards to everyone. If I saw that someone was genuinely offended at being called dude I wouldn’t use it again with that person, but now that I really think about it I don’t think I’ve ever heard the term in a derogatory way. Like ever. For me it’s always been a happy/inclusive word for addressing friends. My only worry for now is that saying it shows my age.
good for you, some people really don’t want to be called that.
part of respecting someone’s identity is respecting the terms which they want and don’t want to be called by.
getting them wrong doesn’t make you an asshole, getting them wrong and not caring does.
People need to get over themselves
in this context this is identical to Conservative “the new generation is too sensitive!!!” drivel.
Uh-huh. Seems you already know your stance is wrong.
Say it, you coward. You’ve already been blowing all the dog-whistles you can find, surely you have the guts to actually say the things you’re thinking.
Are you okay having the tables flipped and someone calling you “sis”?
Using male language as the default may not bother you and you may have no ill intent with it, but it does have a history tied to it. A history where women were seen as less than and didn’t have equal rights. Western society still uses male language slang regardless of gender (hey guys, dude, bro, bruh) and it all stems from a history of a patriarchal society. Every time we say, “hey guys” to refer to a mixed-gender group, we perpetuate patriarchy, whether we intended to or not.
Legally and overall culturally, women are still seen as less than and we still don’t have equal rights (e.g. divorce and abortion law).
To me this feels like you could say “Guys, <insert sentence directed at a group>”, as a general term to catch the attention of/refer to a mixed genre group as a whole. Anyone getting upset that you’re using “Guys” in that context to refer to both men and women is just looking for an excuse
clearly ingenue is the correct choice
or for a potential fun comment thread: is dude gendered? I grew up in a place where a lot of people called everyone dude regardless of gender. That said, when I’ve brought this up, some people get real heated about it.
Hey dude, don’t make it weird. Take a bad song and make it wetter.
Dude can be gendered
and some people will think you’re just looking for an excuse to call men people who aren’t, if you say that dude is not gendered to you
we’re on the internet after all, and no one knows the real intentions of the people behind the screen
You know I’ve said “dude” all my life and I still use it all the time in regards to everyone. If I saw that someone was genuinely offended at being called dude I wouldn’t use it again with that person, but now that I really think about it I don’t think I’ve ever heard the term in a derogatory way. Like ever. For me it’s always been a happy/inclusive word for addressing friends. My only worry for now is that saying it shows my age.
then you’re golden, dude 🙂
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good for you, some people really don’t want to be called that.
part of respecting someone’s identity is respecting the terms which they want and don’t want to be called by.
getting them wrong doesn’t make you an asshole, getting them wrong and not caring does.
in this context this is identical to Conservative “the new generation is too sensitive!!!” drivel.
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‘Ultra-woke garbage’ like what, precisely?
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Uh-huh. Seems you already know your stance is wrong.
Say it, you coward. You’ve already been blowing all the dog-whistles you can find, surely you have the guts to actually say the things you’re thinking.
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Do you fuck dudes?
I don’t, I’m married
My niece calls her mom “bruh”
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Same with my niece and nephews. They call everyone bruh.
I use “my guy” as a humorous precursor to the rest of my sentence regardless of whom I’m speaking to.
Are you okay having the tables flipped and someone calling you “sis”?
Using male language as the default may not bother you and you may have no ill intent with it, but it does have a history tied to it. A history where women were seen as less than and didn’t have equal rights. Western society still uses male language slang regardless of gender (hey guys, dude, bro, bruh) and it all stems from a history of a patriarchal society. Every time we say, “hey guys” to refer to a mixed-gender group, we perpetuate patriarchy, whether we intended to or not.
Legally and overall culturally, women are still seen as less than and we still don’t have equal rights (e.g. divorce and abortion law).
Actually women have superior rights during divorce, in the western world anyway. Try to keep the children as a man during divorce.
Found the incel. Please donate my prize money to any organization that supports passing the ERA.
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To me this feels like you could say “Guys, <insert sentence directed at a group>”, as a general term to catch the attention of/refer to a mixed genre group as a whole. Anyone getting upset that you’re using “Guys” in that context to refer to both men and women is just looking for an excuse
the dude abides.