Obviously I can understand why mysoginists are hated upon, As their belief is all women are trash or men are superior etc. But why are incels also generally hated upon? They are lacking in a way that makes them unable to gey in a relationship, but that shouldn’t necessarily mean they are mysoginists, right?

What am I missing here? I haven’t ever had a relationship with a woman, but I don’t hate all women either. I just consider myself unlucky. Does that make me an incel?

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    What the hell?

    That’s an awful take on life. Replace “men” who can overpower women with a race of people who have larger physiques than the average people or perhaps with those who hail from culture who has had a more violent past. We’re obviously just assuming things, so why not? A generic man can overpower a generic woman just as much as a generic Norwegian person can overpower a generic Korean person.

    That’s saying that you can’t trust your kids to sleep over at the house of anybody who isn’t like you. I really hope that you guys aren’t pushing this world view on children.

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      Is it an awful way to go through life? Yes. Does it lower your risk to go through life this way? Also yes. Sorry, but I’m not risking my kid’s innocence to be politically correct.

      Not all men, but enough men to be wary of all men.

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        And what of abusive women? Women are suddenly more trustworthy in this situation?

        Why?

        You got evidence it’s not just a social stigma that’s giving men a bad reputation and ignoring all the instances where women have done the same?.

        You’re not being cautious. You’re being paranoid and propagating a serious social problem that has been around for literally centuries.

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            And so you keep propagating garbage. Slow clap.

            Anyway:

            https://www.prearesourcecenter.org/sites/default/files/library/effectsofsexualassaultsonmen-physicalmentalandsexualconsequences.pdf

            https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-023-02717-0

            https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/NISVS-StateReportBook.pdf

            https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/1097184X08322632

            https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/if-love-could-kill/202401/the-last-taboo-female-sexual-abuse-of-children

            I doubt you’ll actually read any of this. But if you are interested in educating yourself you may need a paywall unlocking extension for some of these.

            Perhaps you’ll even notice how the subject of men getting raped by women, or children getting abused by women, goes unreported, is understudied, almost never gets funding for study, is never taken seriously, and has more than a little bit of social pressure going against it.

            But hey, I guess I’m just blind, huh?

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              Ok, let’s take your garbage source by source, since you obviously think that overwhelming me with data is a viable strategy:

              1. None of what I said supports the notion that sexual assault against men doesn’t exist

              “Violence against women survey shows that 3% of men experienced some form of sexual victimization”

              So… Consistent with my source that estimates about 9% of victims are men (or specifically not explicitly women)?

              1. Setting aside that this is a study on British men,

              “The incidence rates of male sexual victimization range widely, from less than one percent to 73%” the reason given in the source is that many incidences are believed to be under reported.

              That still doesn’t really change the fact that reported sexual assault in the US is overwhelmingly done by men, as outlined by your next source:

              1. This one is actually my favorite of your sources because of all the raw data:

              Starting at Page 18

              “More than a quarter of US women experienced unwanted sexual contact at some point in their lives”

              “Across all states, between 23.4% and 42.0% of women experienced non-contact unwanted sexual experiences at some point in the lives”

              Perpetrators of female sexual contact are 97.1% Male with nearly 70% of unwanted sexual contact done by an acquaintence or stranger. You know that point I’ve been making up and down this thread about women needing to be wary of men they don’t know? Here it is. In your source.

              Page 32 lines out that 86.5% of unwanted sexual contact to men were also perpetrated by exclusively men, with less than 10% of those cases being female only perpetrators.

              So… Also supporting my source that the vast majority of sexual assault is done by men? Even the vast majority of unwanted sexual contact done against men is perpetrated by other men?

              1. (The onus is on you to provide a source not locked behind a pay wall if you want me to read it, not me to crack it. However, I will again point out that the claim I made does not preclude male victims of sexual assault from existing at all)

              2. This one is a little different because it’s exclusively about sexual violence toward children, and neither here nor there on my original claim, but:

              "Although these convictions are far less than those of male offenders…

              While figures in the United States suggest that women account for 12 to 17 percent of the sex offender population"

              Yeah, again, consistent with the core assertion that men are far more likely to commit sexual assault.

              So in conclusion, maybe you didn’t actually read most of these? Because they all (obviously excluding the one I didn’t see behind the pay wall) outright state exactly what I said, which is that the vast majority of sexual assaults are committed by men.

              Who’s pedaling garbage? These are your sources…

              Now where’s the part where you acknowledge the fact that the source I linked is thoroughly notated and referenced? And that I didn’t in fact just make those numbers up?

              Or am I the only one required to do any reading?