• registeredusername@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      7
      ·
      edit-2
      3 months ago

      Sucks to be you, I own a home made from recycled cardboard with a nice concrete roof (they call a bridge) ;)

      On a serious note yeh renter too can’t afford one doesn’t matter what I earn unless I want to go paycheck to paycheck

      • 𝕱𝖎𝖗𝖊𝖜𝖎𝖙𝖈𝖍@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        1
        ·
        edit-2
        3 months ago

        Even paycheck to paycheck it’s impossible. I calculated that the minimum salary needed to buy a run down 1br/studio sized apartment in the ass end of the outer boroughs of my city is $200k.

        They generally start around $500k for a shit tier place.

    • PhlubbaDubba@lemm.ee
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      6
      ·
      3 months ago

      That’ll be a hard one even in ideal circumstances, I literally live in a city where half the residents are doctors that commute into the larger city nearby for work part time and yet appointments are still only available a month out.

  • bionicjoey@lemmy.ca
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    29
    arrow-down
    2
    ·
    edit-2
    3 months ago

    Honestly I’ve often thought it would be fun to hire a sex worker, but it’s seemingly impossible to ensure safety from any diseases, from getting mugged, and also to ensure nobody is being exploited or coerced. I really wish it was legal and regulated (and ideally unionized) in my area. It would be cool to be able to access a service like that as easily as I can book a haircut.

    • PhlubbaDubba@lemm.ee
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      8
      ·
      edit-2
      3 months ago

      tryst d link will usually have trustworthy SWers to contact if you’re really interested

      Usually the ones that come off as spiritually into the whole thing will be your best bet for a first encounter

      Also, don’t trust anyone who isn’t asking for vetting, seems backwards but sting ops will usually skip that part while legit SWers will often demand it to make sure they’re not exposing themselves to a sting on your end.

      • bionicjoey@lemmy.ca
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        5
        arrow-down
        1
        ·
        edit-2
        3 months ago

        Also, don’t trust anyone who isn’t asking for vetting, seems backwards but sting ops will usually skip that part while legit SWers will often demand it to make sure they’re not exposing themselves to a sting on your end.

        Where I am, SWers are decriminalized, but buying their services isn’t. So they don’t need to be afraid of stings. Not sure if that affects what you’re saying.

        Anyway this is all hypothetical since I have a gf right now, but I’ve spent most of my adult life single and lonely and would have loved to be able to access SW services safely and legitimately during those times.

        • Mercury@lemmy.world
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          4
          ·
          edit-2
          3 months ago

          I might be stupid, but can someone explain why sex workers are decriminalized while buying their services isn’t? I don’t get the logic behind only punishing one party involved in the transaction. Note that I’m not against sex workers at all; I’m just confused about the logic.

          • Zagorath@aussie.zone
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            9
            ·
            3 months ago

            Because sex work being criminalised can prevent sex workers from feeling safe going to the police if they get assaulted in their like of work, and can also prevent trafficked people from coming forward.

            • conciselyverbose@sh.itjust.works
              link
              fedilink
              arrow-up
              1
              ·
              3 months ago

              Because in a significant portion of cases, they are. They’re owned by someone and didn’t choose to sell themselves.

              The fact that trafficking is such a meaningful portion of sex work is a big part of the reason it hasn’t been legalized most places. I think it should be legalized and regulated to try to make it harder to have the workers be people who don’t freely and fully consent, but the increase in demand if it’s legal could make it worse in the short term at least.

  • M500@lemmy.ml
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    23
    ·
    3 months ago

    Dungeons and dragons. I live in a foreign country and am still learning the language. I’m years away from being able to play.

    • Zagorath@aussie.zone
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      1
      ·
      3 months ago

      There are translated versions of the D&D books in a couple of languages, though unfortunately not very many.

      Frankly though, if you can read English well enough to slowly go through the rules, that’s good enough. Because while you’re actually playing it at the table, you and your friends can be speaking your own language, no problem.

      This page has some advice on how to deal with non-English speaking tables. It’s talking about Pathfinder, which is a sort of “off-brand D&D” (personally I think Pathfinder 2e is a superior game to D&D 5e), but the advice is general enough to work for any RPG.

      • M500@lemmy.ml
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        2
        ·
        3 months ago

        Thanks for the link I was not aware of it and will read it.

        My main concern is that I’ll miss out on what’s happening as everyone will be speaking a different language. So I will not know what the dm is talking about or what choices the other characters have made.

        • Zagorath@aussie.zone
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          2
          ·
          3 months ago

          You should try to play with other people who speak your language, so the DM and other players can describe the world & their actions in your language, using English only for the technical rules.

          For example, if your language was French, you could have the following interaction:

          Player: J’attaque le gobelin avec mon «Greatsword».

          DM: D’accord. Roule pour frapper.

          Player: C’est un d-vingt plus mon «Strength» ?

          DM: Oui, plus ton «Proficiency» aussi.

          I’m using French just because it’s the only other language I can write in, but the same idea could work for any language. Keep technical terms in English but mostly speak your language.

          The trick is to find a group—or set up the group yourself, out of your friends!—of people you can play with IRL, not a random group of English-speaking strangers online.

  • FoxyFerengi@lemm.ee
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    19
    arrow-down
    1
    ·
    3 months ago

    I’d love to go to a sober bar. Sure, I can get non alcoholic cocktails at my local, but it’d be nice to have the atmosphere and know everyone else is sober too

      • HiddenLychee@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        4
        ·
        3 months ago

        If you’ve ever had a man hopped up on way too much espresso try to hit on you at a coffee shop, you’d know coffee makes people kind of drunk as well lmao

    • HeavyRaptor@lemmy.zip
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      5
      arrow-down
      2
      ·
      3 months ago

      You’re just kidding, right? Is that a real thing? (I looked it up, apparently it is real)

      May I ask, why do you want a bar without alcohol? Are you not allowed to or not drinking by choice?

      • Zagorath@aussie.zone
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        12
        ·
        3 months ago

        Sounds kinda like atheist churches. Something that looks nonsensical on its face, but actually makes sense when you think about it.

        One of the really beneficial things about religion is the sense of community and the ritual of going to church every week, singing some songs, etc. It’s a great place for religious people to meet people, make friends, and establish a good social life that can even extend outside of the church itself. So why not do all those things, but without the magic sky fairy?

      • Fondots@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        8
        arrow-down
        1
        ·
        3 months ago

        In general many people consider it to be kind of rude to ask people why someone isn’t drinking/doesn’t want to drink. A lot of the reasons may be things they don’t want to share details about, past alcohol abuse, family history, traumatic experiences, health issues, etc. Even if it’s something pretty benign like they just don’t enjoy the taste it can get old just having to answer the same questions again and again because a lot of people really want to push the issue for one reason or another.

        Personally, I do enjoy drinking, and don’t have anything against bars in general, but I can see the appeal of sober bars. Some people are just in search of a “third place” somewhere that’s not work or home that they can just go to hang out, talk to people, etc. and for a lot of people bars fill that role, but if they’re not drinking for any reason, bars may not be very attractive option for them. Also a lot of people when drunk can get loud, annoying, or just otherwise unpleasant to be around, not that sober people can’t also be jerks, but people in general are probably going to be dialed back a bit more when they’re all sober than when they’re drinking. And if your goal is to try to meet more people, you might have a chance of having more authentic interactions with the people you’re trying to meet, some people’s personalities can really change when they’ve been drinking, you might hit it off with people you wouldn’t have if one or both of you were drunk.

      • LifeOfChance@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        5
        ·
        3 months ago

        I’m not the person you asked but I’ve heard of people wanting this and I would be willing as well. A non alcoholic bar would allow for less chaos in a welcoming environment. Bars are loud to force you to drink more. That incentive is gone when you take the alcohol away. Some nice light music as you converse with friends sounds great to me.

        • I_Fart_Glitter@lemmy.world
          cake
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          2
          ·
          3 months ago

          Wine bars are typically geared toward the light music to converse with friends angle, and if you don’t need it to be alcohol free, are much easier to find than sober bars.

      • tiredcapillary@iusearchlinux.fyi
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        3
        ·
        3 months ago

        To go hang out with people in a cool setting while having alcohol-like drinks without the problems. Like going to a Kava bar or something, or tea bar. Bunch of places out there with themed drinks to hang out. Sometimes you like the taste of cocktails but don’t want to get drunk.

  • OhmsLawn@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    15
    ·
    3 months ago

    At this point in my life, other than opportunity costs, there’s nothing stopping me from doing anything reasonable. The issue is time and will.

    I’d love to be able to see the stars better. I live in a very bright, and often overcast area. I have a nice little telescope, but I’ve only taken it out a couple of times. I’ve been meaning to catch up with the local astro club, but, you know, time and will.

    • ultranaut@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      2
      ·
      3 months ago

      Have you considered purchasing a night vision device? They help cut through light pollution better than anything, you will see a crazy number of stars.

      • OhmsLawn@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        5
        ·
        3 months ago

        I appreciate the idea. I just really like the photons to hit my eyes directly. Putting electronics in between makes it feel more like looking at photos than real stars.

  • kamills@sh.itjust.works
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    10
    ·
    3 months ago

    I want to make a tunnel boring machine for digging ~2 meter tall tunnels in sandstone. Sadly I live in a place with only sand in the underground and that’s not suitable for digging tunnels DIY style

    • OhmsLawn@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      7
      ·
      3 months ago

      That’s all?

      Man, I’m really sorry you’re stuck in a sand pit.

      We have so much fun with our TBM’s in my area. My neighbor, Ralf, built a 3M BEAST! You wouldn’t believe the daily progress he makes. It’s got integrated support walls and everything. Our club is in a bit of a feud with the hacks 3 subdivisions over. They keep boring too close to our tunnels. Not. Cool. Man.

      Anyway, at least you can cut and cover with sand, a perfectly viable tunnelling strategy with lower startup costs.

      • kamills@sh.itjust.works
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        1
        ·
        3 months ago

        Oh that sounds so cool, you got any videos of those machines?

        I could do other tunneling methods, but I really want to make a TBM specifically

  • Thorny_Insight@lemm.ee
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    11
    arrow-down
    1
    ·
    3 months ago

    Offroading.

    I have a somewhat capable truck but very limited places to get to try out its full capabilities. Here it’s illegal to drive motor vehicles without permission on a land that you don’t own.

    • Che Banana@lemmy.ml
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      8
      arrow-down
      1
      ·
      edit-2
      3 months ago

      So much fun, good memories with the offroad group I fell in with during the Forum era of the internet, some of us still keep in touch.

      The group had people from around the US, and even though I lived in a place like you are now there were opportunities for road trips to meet up with & go with waaaay more experienced people.

      I was NOT mechanically inclined but made Incredible meals camping (sushi, smoked pulled pork, bbq tri tip beef, etc.) so I traded that for help installing mods & fixing broken shit.

      The group also went to the national meet up, but we never went on “official” runs, just went on our own and to make shenanigans & meet up.

      Check out (your vehicle) 4x4 groups and start there!

      • brygphilomena@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        5
        arrow-down
        4
        ·
        3 months ago

        God forbid someone finds cars fun, right?

        You could probably design and build an ev off-road vehicle. It would likely suck as the batteries are super heavy, but someone could.

        As for land, it’s amazing how a lot of places designate ohv (off highway vehicle) trails and put time and money to maintain them so they don’t completely ruin the area.

    • ɐɥO@lemmy.ohaa.xyz
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      9
      ·
      3 months ago

      As an Austrian I can say that skiing is kinda overrated. I mean, Sure its fun but it gets pretty repetetive after a while