I blame shitty sitcoms. If you really look at them, most people are terrible to each other.
Hey Ross, why don’t you marry it? Hurr durr! Science nerdy! Dinosaur bones dumb! How you doin’?
Full disclosure, I enjoyed Friends a lot back in the day, but I’m rewatching it now, and his friends are pretty terrible towards him, especially for things that are actually quite impressive, like being a doctor of paleontology in his mid 20’s.
I once made a “your mom” quip to a friend like less than a month after their mom very suddenly passed away.
Can’t really put into words how I felt the moment that came out of my mouth.
This is like the mountain biking principle, but in your subconscious regarding conversation.
In mountain biking, it’s said that if you want to avoid a rock, don’t look at it. Look where you want to go.
If you look at the rock, you are much more.likely to subconsciously steer the bike right into it.
Your mind probably knew about it, and was trying not to bring it up. But therefore you were thinking about it a lot, and what comes up? A mom joke.
Honestly, I think you’re completely right. And just as bad of a crash, too.